Kim Trotto
  • Me, Happily Ever After Blog
  • Soul Circle
  • Watch
  • Workshops
    • Vision Board Workshops
    • The Forgiveness Expedition
    • Living with Ease & Flow
    • Find Your Purpose Workshop
    • May Cause Miracles Workshops >
      • MCM Shop
  • Meditations
  • About Kim
  • Forgiveness
  • Shop My Favorite Happily Ever After Products
  • Shop Worthy Wares
  • Wisdom & Joy on Our Pinterest Page
  • Contact
  • Privacy Policy
Picture
​

How to Get Rid of Shame and Stop Shame from Stopping You

5/9/2018

0 Comments

 
How to Get Rid of Shame, Stop Shame from Stopping YouHow to Get Rid of Shame, Stop Shame from Stopping You
Getting rid of shame is important for the journey to worthiness.  Worthiness and shame are connected.  If we feel ashamed, we probably feel like we are unworthy of love, of our relationships, maybe even of past achievements. Definitely of future things we would like to accomplish. 

Shame shuts us down before we even begin.  It gets in the way of dreaming of possibilities, blocking us from our heart’s desires.

I’ve carried a shame story for most of my life in one way or another.  As a young, overweight girl, I felt burning shame when kids made fun of me, which created a vicious cycle since I sought relief in food. 

In my wilder teen years I made unhealthy relationship choices that brought more shame.  There was a constant tempo in my head shouting, “I’ll never be good enough.”

I’d learn some soul lessons and gain some confidence but there was always another failure.  I would end up giving my power to the failure and inside of my power, I handed over my worth along with it. 

It took some deep soul work to move past this and help me get rid of the shame that wasn't serving me, it only stifled me.  I had to learn the language of worthiness.  The first and most important step is to unlearn the language of unworthiness, the negative self-talk that can be incessant in many of our heads. 

I call it shugly talk.  It is from the shadows and is ugly.  So ugly that we would never utter the shugly words to our enemies, but we allow them to move freely and abundantly in our heads. 

Once I worked on unlearning unworthiness, I could use affirmations to help learn the new language of worthiness.  Like, “I am willing to see myself differently” or “I totally and completely love myself unconditionally.”

Often we think that we should be able to control the negative behavior or thinking.  This brings shame, if we are unable to control it.  Like if we are unable to control binge eating or the shugly thoughts in our heads. 

If you sense that shame is a part of the negative thinking and behavior, processing the shame can help quiet it.

Processing  Shame

Step 1: Acknowledge it as shame.

Hey, shame, here we are. 

Step 2: Be willing to look at the situation differently.

This helps in many situations to bring light to options that had been blocked.

Step 3: Choose to stand in love with the shame.

This is the action part.  Realize that you don’t have to run from your shame.  Running from it is ignoring it, covering it up with defenses, or choosing to live a lesser life than what we truly want for ourselves.

Fight or flight is not the only option.  We can choose to stand in unconditional love for ourselves.  This opens the door to see a better possibility. 

Breathe into it. Feel the shame.  Realize where the shame came from. “Oh, that’s the little girl, overweight and ashamed.” Breathe.

Then shift to feeling unconditional love for yourself.  Feel it from your heart center, radiating out.  Breathe into it.

Forgive yourself.  Breathe.

Step 4: Ask your inner light what is the shame’s meaning for you? Ask, what is the message that it wants you to know to relieve you?

This message can give us hope, which is ultimately what we need.

The message that came through from my inner light is that I am worthy and not a failure.  I use this as a mantra.  Remembering the message from deep inside of me that I am worthy and not a failure gives me hope and frees me to move forward.

Processing shame is really a practice.  Whatever we focus on and practiced is strengthened.  We may be able to process it and it disappears for a while, but it will probably creep back in.  But, I have good news, beautiful ones, we have this process so we can do it again, to get rid of the shame, until we feel free. 

I hope this serves you!

Kim Trotto is a life and wellness coach.  If you'd like to work on Going from Doubt and Fear to Sure Awesomeness,  schedule  a free 20 minute Discovery Call, click this link to see if we would be a good fit for working together.


0 Comments



Leave a Reply.

    Picture

    Click for a Free Guided
    ​Meditation Album

    With Tracks Like:
    ​Body Love
    Feel Your Worth
    Unhunger
    ​Healing for Weight Wellness

    Picture
    Click for ​FREE DIY Cleaner Eating  Tools
    • Cleaner Eating Designer
    • Cleaner Eating Shopping List
    •  How to Start Eating Cleaner Simply & Meal Ideas
     

    Categories

    All
    Healthy Habits
    Healthy Yumminess
    Mind
    Recipes
    Soul
    Weekly Worthy Meal Plans

    Picture

    Archives

    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017

    RSS Feed

    logo
    Advertising by
    Picture

    Author

    I was a school teacher for 20 years and am a lifetime soul learner.  I am still a teacher, just a different curriculum.  

    I also have been a Weight Watchers member for 35 years.  I am a lifetime member checking in free for the last 13 years.  

    I am living the life I have always dreamed of through helping others and designing my own life.

    I share things I found on my journey to body happiness, weight wellness, worthiness and me, happily ever after.  I hope to help others with my sharing.

    ​Unconditional love and practical ways to feel your worth are themes in my work.  

THIS WEBSITE USES COOKIES.  bY CONTINUING, WE ASSUME THAT YOU ACCEPT SUCH USE.  lEARN MORE ABOUT COOKIES AND HOW TO REFUSE THEM AT THIS LINK. 
All Resources created and copyrighted by Kim Trotto, 2018

Kim Trotto/Soul Blissed Circle, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affliate program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.  We also participate in other affiliate programs which help to support our work and writing.  We always share our honest opinions and information as we understand it.  Any product claim, statistic, quote or other representation about a product or service should be verified with the provider or party in question.
This site is not an official Weight Watchers site, Smart Points are calculated by Kim Trotto with the Weight Watcher app.

website_terms_of_use_kimtrotto.com.docx
File Size: 23 kb
File Type: docx
Download File

website_privacy_policy_updated_gdpr_weebly_healthy_ads_.docx
File Size: 25 kb
File Type: docx
Download File

website_disclaimer_kimtrotto.com.docx
File Size: 16 kb
File Type: docx
Download File

How Google Manages Data in Ad Programs 

Email

ktrotto@kimtrotto.com                                                                                                                                                KimTrotto.com is a part of Soul Blissed Circle, LLC
  • Me, Happily Ever After Blog
  • Soul Circle
  • Watch
  • Workshops
    • Vision Board Workshops
    • The Forgiveness Expedition
    • Living with Ease & Flow
    • Find Your Purpose Workshop
    • May Cause Miracles Workshops >
      • MCM Shop
  • Meditations
  • About Kim
  • Forgiveness
  • Shop My Favorite Happily Ever After Products
  • Shop Worthy Wares
  • Wisdom & Joy on Our Pinterest Page
  • Contact
  • Privacy Policy