I finally realized that issues I had like being overweight and losing weight just to gain it back were not fully weight issues they were actually mostly worthiness issues.
I could then understand that the feeling of unworthiness flowed into many parts of my life. I recognized that if it was this way for me, it might be that way for others too.
That led me here, to the work that I do now in helping people feel their worth, so that they can be happy and healthy and choose what is worthy of what they truly want for themselves.
Beginning to believe in your worth comes from small shifts in thinking. I see these shifts as miracles, but different from the usual meaning. A Course in Miracles, a metaphysical text, says a miracle is a shift in perception, or change in the way we feel and think.
The first small shift comes from another A Course in Miracles message expressing that we can give our thoughts to God and he will transform them into miracles. How awesome is that?
If you don’t believe in God, you could think of it as your higher power or your own inner light.
So, follow my logic here, if we are talking about how we see ourselves, if we give those thoughts about ourselves to God or to your higher power, they will be transformed into miracles. We will have a shift in our thinking and begin to see ourselves differently, maybe even as God sees us.
The second small shift towards miracles is having a gentle focus on feeling happier with ourselves. We can focus on something we feel really good about ourselves and it can be simple, like how well we breathe or how well our nails grow. The good feelings will expand to other areas.
Telling ourselves that we are capable, loved and worthy is the third small shift. We can repeat affirmations like, “I totally love and accept myself.” This is very different than saying we are better than others, which may be viewed as judgement.
Our fourth is to shift the language of unworthiness, which plays on a continuous loop in many of our heads. This is negative self-talk, the silent, ugly words from the shadows that we say to ourselves constantly, yet we would never dream of saying something so horrible to our enemies. I call these shugly words (shadows +ugly).
Practice this awesome tool to help shift the shugly words when negative self-talk or other crazy thoughts come up. It’s called WAIT, which is an acronym for: What Am I Thinking? When you notice the shugly thoughts coming up, wait and say to yourself, what am I thinking? Then envision in your mind putting those thoughts into the "brain trash bin" and see yourself letting go.
Try this out and practice it a few times. Think of a negative thought you had today about yourself or others. Now use WAIT, What am I thinking? Then put it into the brain trash bin and see yourself letting go.
It is a very useful tool for quieting negative thinking and shifting unworthiness. Rehearsing this tool by catching shugly thoughts and releasing them will help you to be ready for when the shugly thoughts try to sneak in.
Beginning to believe in your worth comes in small shifts or steps, like learning to walk, but soon the small steps add up and you’re running across the floor.
Do you have a worthiness shift? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!
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These deliciously healthy bars are high in protein from the oats, Greek yogurt, eggs and coconut flour. They also pack a punch of fiber from the bananas, oats, and coconut flour.
Awesome for a quick breakfast or a healthier dessert, you'll feel really good about them, before, during and after you eat them.
They come together quickly and easily, which helps all of us that lead busy, blurry lives.
I was happy I had them to offer to a few friends that were over while we were planning our sons' graduation party.
You'll be proud to offer them too!
Total Time: 30 minutes
1 ½ cup uncooked old fashioned oats
1/3 cup coconut flour
½ tsp cinnamon
½ tsp baking soda
Pinch sea salt
3 Bananas, very ripe, mashed
1/3 cup Greek yogurt
1/3 cup sweetner (honey, maple syrup, or Splenda granulated)
½ tsp vanilla extract
Yield: 16 bars
1 Weight Watchers Smart Points, if use fat-free or low-fat Greek yogurt and Splenda, granulated for sweetener.
+1 WW SP for honey or maple syrup
Author: Kim Trotto
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